Day 2 - Money Mindset Reboot Workshop

Identity, Safety, and Momentum

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This part of the workshop is designed to be experienced after the previous step.

If you haven’t completed the earlier module yet, you may want to start there first.

Yesterday, you uncovered where your money patterns came from and how your nervous system responds to financial stress.

Today, we focus on building something new: a grounded financial identity, emotional safety around money, and momentum that actually lasts.

This is about becoming someone who can engage with money calmly and consistently — without pressure, shame, or overwhelm.

Financial Identity Map

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Financial Identity Map

MODULE 1 - Identity Shapes Outcomes (And How to Change It)

Day Two begins by explaining why financial results are shaped by identity, not willpower or knowledge. This lesson introduces the identity, habits, outcomes loop and shows how unconscious self-beliefs quietly drive financial behavior.

You’ll learn about micro identities like saver, planner, investor, and confident earner, and how small, consistent actions can begin reshaping who you see yourself as with money. This lesson sets the foundation for building a new financial identity through behavior, not force, and prepares you to map that identity more clearly in the next lesson.

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Welcome to Day Two.

Yesterday, we did some heavy lifting. We looked at where your money beliefs come from, how your nervous system reacts to financial stress, and we started identifying some of the limiting beliefs that have been running your financial life.

Today, we’re going to build something new.

And here’s a truth most people don’t understand. You don’t get the results you want. You get the results that match your identity.

Let me say that again, because it’s important. Your financial outcomes aren’t determined by what you want or what you know. They’re determined by what you believe you are.

Think about it this way. If you see yourself as someone who’s bad with money, you’re going to unconsciously make decisions that prove that identity is true. And if you see yourself as someone who never has enough, you’ll always spend or save in ways that reinforce scarcity.

But if you start to see yourself as someone who’s learning to manage money calmly and confidently, your behaviors will begin to align with that identity instead.

This isn’t positive thinking, and it’s not manifestation. It’s behavioral psychology. Your brain wants to keep your actions consistent with your self-concept. This is called identity-congruent behavior, and it’s one of the most powerful forces shaping your financial life.

That’s why we need to understand the identity, habits, outcomes loop.

Let me break down how this actually works.

First, you have your identity. This is how you see yourself.
“I am…” and you fill in the blank.

That might be:
I am disorganized with money.
I am a spender.
I am a saver.
I am someone who avoids financial stuff.
I’m just not good with money.

Next, you have your habits. Your identity drives your daily behaviors, often unconsciously.

If you identify as disorganized, you don’t set up systems. If you identify as a spender, you justify purchases. If you identify as someone who avoids finances altogether, you probably don’t check your accounts. Those are habits. Those are behaviors.

And then you have the outcomes.

Your habits create your results. Disorganization leads to missed payments, overdraft fees, and stress. Constant spending leads to debt, no savings, and financial anxiety. Avoidance leads to surprises, emergencies, and feeling completely out of control.

See how this works? The outcome isn’t the problem. The outcome is just the end result of a chain that started with identity, then habits, then outcomes.

Here’s the good news. If you change the identity, the habits change. And if the habits change, the outcomes change.

This is why we started with mindset work yesterday. Trying to change financial outcomes without changing identity is like trying to drive a car forward with your foot on the parking brake. It just doesn’t work.

So now we’re going to look at micro identities.

Micro identities are the smaller, more specific identities you hold within your overall financial identity. Let me give you a few examples.

A saver prioritizes security. They build reserves and feel calm knowing money is set aside.

A planner thinks ahead and maps out goals. They like decisions and structure, not reactive choices.

An investor believes money can grow. They think long term, see the big picture, and are willing to learn about wealth-building tools.

A confident earner knows their value. They ask for what they deserve and aren’t ashamed of wanting financial abundance.

And a calm spender can spend without guilt. Their spending aligns with their values, and they’re not using shopping to cope emotionally.

So here’s what I want you to do. Think about which identities you want to embody. Not who you are right now, but who you want to become. It might be one of these, a combination, or something entirely different.

Grab your Identity Mapping mini template that came with this workshop, and start answering this question: Who do I want to become with money?

Now we’re going to start stacking behavioral basics.

You don’t build a new identity by thinking about it. You build it by acting like the person you want to become, in small, consistent ways. This is called behavioral stacking, and it’s one of the most effective tools for identity change.

Here’s how it works. You take a tiny behavior, something so small it feels almost ridiculous, and attach it to an existing habit.

For example, if you want to become a planner, every morning when you drink your coffee, you check your bank balance. That’s it. The identity reinforcement is, I’m someone who stays aware of my money.

If you want to become a saver, every time you get paid, before you spend a single dollar, you transfer ten dollars into savings. The message to your brain is, I’m someone who prioritizes saving.

If you want to become a confident earner, once a week write down one thing you did well at work, even if no one noticed. This reinforces the identity, I recognize my value.

These actions are tiny. They take seconds. They require no motivation and no willpower. And that’s the point.

Big changes don’t come from dramatic actions. They come from small, repeated behaviors that build evidence over time.

Every time you take an action that aligns with your desired identity, your brain files it away as proof. Your brain is like a file cabinet. It says, I checked my balance today. I must be someone who’s financially aware. Or, I saved ten dollars. I must be a saver.

Over time, that evidence compounds. Your identity shifts, not because you forced it, but because you proved it to yourself through action.

Here’s what I want you to take from this lesson. Your identity is not fixed. It’s not who you’ve always been. It’s who you are proving yourself to be through daily actions.

If you want a different financial outcome, you have to start acting like the person who already has that outcome, even before you fully believe it. This isn’t fake it till you make it. It’s act it until you become it.

The belief will follow.

In the next lesson, we’re going to go deeper. We’ll map out your new financial identity in detail, including specific traits, behaviors, and beliefs of the person you’re becoming.

By the end of today, you’re going to feel more grounded, more capable, and more aligned with who you want to be.

Take a few minutes if you need to, and when you’re ready, I’ll see you in the next lesson.

MODULE 2 - Designing Your New Financial Identity

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This lesson guides you through creating a clear, intentional financial identity using a “financial character sheet.” You’ll identify the old money identity you’re leaving behind, define who you are becoming, and map out the traits and behaviors that support that new identity.

By connecting identity to small, consistent actions, this lesson shows how real financial change happens through alignment, not perfection. You’ll leave with a practical blueprint for making decisions as your future self and building financial progress without shame or pressure.

When you’re ready, we can continue straight into Day 2 – Module 3.

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Okay, we’re back. Let’s build your new financial identity.

In the last lesson, we talked about the identity formula, how who you believe you are shapes your habits, and how your habits shape your outcomes.

Now we’re going to get really specific. We’re going to create what I call a financial character sheet, a clear, detailed picture of who you are becoming with money.

We’ve already decided we’re leaving the old version of ourselves behind, and we’re creating something new. And this is not about faking it. It’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not.

It’s about deciding who you want to be, and then giving your brain a clear target to aim for.

Here’s what happens when you don’t have a clear identity. Your brain defaults to whatever is familiar. It repeats old patterns, even when they don’t serve you, even when you know better, simply because they’re familiar.

But when you define a new identity clearly, your brain has something to work toward. Your brain likes assignments. It wants direction. And once it has that, it starts looking for ways to align your behavior with who you’ve decided to become.

So the first step is naming the old identity. We have to acknowledge where we’ve been, not to shame it, not to judge it, but simply to see it clearly so we can leave it behind.

Grab your Identity Mapping mini template, and at the top, write down the old identity you’ve been carrying.

Complete this sentence:
Until now, I’ve been someone who…

Fill in the blank honestly. Maybe it’s someone who avoids looking at their bank account, spends impulsively, believes they’ll never get ahead, or feels ashamed around money. Whatever it is, write it down.

This is your work. It’s private. Just be honest with yourself.

Now we’re going to define the new identity.

Complete this sentence:
I am becoming someone who…

Notice I said becoming. I didn’t say I am. Becoming removes pressure. It acknowledges progress without demanding perfection.

Think of it like planning a vacation. You say, I am going on vacation, even though you’re not there yet. But because you know where you’re headed, you start preparing. You book tickets. You pack. You plan.

That’s what "I am becoming" does. It tells your brain, "This is where we’re headed".

Let me give you a few examples.

An old identity might be: I avoid my finances.
A new identity becomes: I am becoming someone who checks my accounts calmly and regularly.

An old identity might be: I never have enough money.
A new identity becomes: I am becoming someone who builds financial security step by step.

An old identity might be: I spend without thinking.
A new identity becomes: I am becoming someone who makes intentional spending choices.

See the shift? You’re not denying reality. You’re choosing direction.

Now it’s your turn. Based on the old identity you wrote down, define the new identity you want to step into.

Write it down. Take your time. Make sure it feels true, aligned, and like someone you actually want to become.

Now let’s get more specific.

Who is this person you’re becoming? What are their characteristics? Your financial identity doesn’t exist in isolation. It’s connected to how you see yourself overall.

In your Identity Mapping template, write down five to seven traits of the person you’re becoming.

Some examples might include calm, organized, intentional, future-focused, confident, curious, resourceful, disciplined, capable, or open.

Choose traits that feel aspirational but achievable. Not perfect. Just better than where you’ve been.

Now we anchor this identity with behavior.

Traits without behaviors are just wishes. So for each trait, we’re going to connect it to a small, specific action.

For example, if one of your traits is calm, what does a calm person do with money? They breathe before opening their bank account. They don’t make financial decisions when emotional. They give themselves time to think.

If one of your traits is organized, they know where their financial documents are. They set up autopay. They check accounts weekly.

If one of your traits is future-focused, they save something from every paycheck, even if it’s small. They think about long-term goals and ask, Will future me thank me for this?

Now pick two or three traits from your list, and for each one, write down one small behavior that matches it.

This is how identity becomes action. This is how you prove to yourself that you’re becoming this person.

Now let’s pull it all together.

By now, you should have your old identity, your new identity, the traits of the person you’re becoming, and the behaviors that support those traits.

This is your financial character sheet. This is the blueprint for who you’re becoming.

Read it regularly. Put it somewhere you’ll see it. Use it as a decision filter. When you’re faced with a financial choice, ask yourself, What would the person I’m becoming do?

Update it as you grow. This is not set in stone. Identity evolves, and you’re allowed to evolve with it.

I’ve done this work myself many times. Life has seasons. We grow, we change, and we have to let go of versions of ourselves that no longer fit.

Behaviors follow identity. Outcomes follow behavior. And that’s what I want for you, the outcomes you’re looking for.

Now connect this back to the limiting beliefs we identified earlier. Those beliefs were tied to your old identity. Your new identity doesn’t have room for them.

When an old belief pops up, notice it and redirect it. Choose the story you’re living into.

That I am becoming statement matters. It removes shame. It allows growth. It gives you permission to make mistakes and keep moving forward.

You made a big step today. You defined who you’re becoming, what traits you embody, and how you’re going to act.

Most people never do this work. They just react to life. But you’re designing your future intentionally. And that matters.

In the next lesson, we’re going to talk about creating emotional safety around money, because even with a strong identity, we all need tools to stay regulated when stress hits.

Take a break, stretch, get some water, let this settle in, and I’ll see you in the next lesson.

MODULE 3 - Creating Emotional Safety Around Money

This lesson focuses on creating emotional safety around money. You’ll learn why financial success depends on nervous system regulation, not pressure or willpower, and how stress can override even the strongest intentions.

You’ll build a personal Money Safety Blueprint using regulation tools, safe habit design, environmental support, and self-trust practices. By prioritizing calm and consistency over force, this lesson shows how sustainable financial change is built from safety, not struggle.

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Welcome back.

So far today, we’ve talked about identity, and how who you believe you are shapes everything. You’ve started building your new financial identity.

But here’s the reality. Even with a clear identity, even with the best intentions, your nervous system can still hijack you when financial stress hits. And stress will always exist.

So in this lesson, we’re going to create a Money Safety Blueprint. This is a set of tools and strategies you can use to stay calm, grounded, and capable when money feels overwhelming and when life feels like too much.

Here’s the truth. You cannot make good financial decisions from a dysregulated nervous system. When you’re anxious, panicked, or shut down, your brain literally cannot access rational thinking.

That’s why before we ever talk about budgets or savings goals, we have to talk about regulation.

Emotional safety is the foundation of financial success. Not discipline. Not willpower. Not trying harder. Safety.

When your nervous system feels safe, you can think clearly. You make intentional decisions. You follow through. You handle setbacks without spiraling.

But when your nervous system feels unsafe, you avoid, you panic, you make impulsive decisions, you shut down, and you isolate. The difference is dramatic.

So the first step before making any financial decision is to check in with your body.

Ask yourself:
Am I calm right now, or am I activated?
Is my breathing shallow or deep?
Is my chest tight or open?
Am I thinking clearly, or spiraling?
Do I feel grounded, or frantic?

If your chest is tight, your breathing is shallow, and your thoughts are racing, do not make a financial decision.

Instead, use one of the regulation tools we talked about earlier, breathwork like the 4-7-8 method, grounding like the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, or a small, grounding action. Your job in that moment is to regulate your body, not to force a decision.

It is completely okay to say, I’m not able to make a decision right now. I need to step away.

Now let’s talk about designing financial habits that do not trigger stress.

Most budgeting advice is designed to be aggressive and restrictive. It’s all about what you can’t do, and it activates your nervous system’s threat response. When that happens, people quit.

Instead, we design habits that feel safe.

For example, don’t try to save five hundred dollars this month if you’ve never saved before. Start with five dollars or fifty dollars. Your nervous system won’t panic over that.

Make habits optional, not mandatory. Instead of I have to check my account every day, try I can check my account when I feel ready. Removing pressure reduces resistance.

And when you take an action, celebrate it. Checking your balance is a win. Transferring five dollars is a win. The action matters more than the amount. Identity is built through action. Outcomes come later.

Now let’s talk about environmental design.

Your environment shapes your behavior more than you realize. If your environment is chaotic, your financial life is likely chaotic. If your environment is calming, your decisions tend to reflect that.

Create a calm physical space for handling money. Not your bed. Not a cluttered kitchen. A clean, intentional space helps create a calm mind.

Organize your financial documents. Remove temptations by unsubscribing from emails or deleting shopping apps if impulse spending is an issue. Adjust your digital environment by turning off alerts that trigger panic and using tools that feel supportive rather than punitive.

Set up automations like autopay so you don’t have to rely on willpower.

Your social environment matters too. Spend time with people who have healthy money habits. Limit exposure to people who glorify overspending or shame. Seek out communities where financial growth is normalized.

You are not separate from your environment. You are shaped by it.

Now let’s talk about self-trust.

Many people don’t trust themselves with money, sometimes for understandable reasons. But you cannot build a healthy financial life without self-trust.

And self-trust is built by keeping small promises to yourself.

Don’t promise yourself something unrealistic. Promise something small and keep it. Check your account. Save five dollars. Then do it. Each kept promise rebuilds trust.

When you mess up, forgive yourself. Slipping does not erase progress. It’s part of learning.

Track your wins. Most people track failures automatically. Start tracking success. When you resist an impulse purchase, write it down. Build evidence that you are capable.

Now let me bring this together with one core principle:

Safety will always be more effective than pressure.

Pressure might work short-term, but it’s not sustainable. Eventually, your nervous system rebels and you burn out.

Safety, on the other hand, allows consistency. Consistency builds trust. Trust builds confidence. And confidence creates lasting change.

You do not have to push yourself to the breaking point to succeed. You do not have to white-knuckle your way through a restrictive budget.

You can build financial success from a place of calm, safety, and self-trust. And honestly, that’s the only way it lasts.

That’s it for this module. In the next lesson, we’re going to talk about momentum, how small wins build confidence, and how confidence creates lasting change.

I’ll see you in a few minutes.

MODULE 4 - Momentum: How Small Wins Create Confidence

This lesson explains why lasting financial change comes from small, consistent actions rather than big, dramatic efforts. You’ll learn how tiny habits create confidence, confidence builds momentum, and momentum drives long-term change.

By introducing simple micro habits and the momentum loop, this lesson shows how action leads to confidence, not the other way around. You’ll leave with practical ways to build progress that feels sustainable, calm, and achievable.

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Are you ready to talk about momentum?

We all love momentum, because here’s one of the biggest myths about personal finance: that you need to make big, dramatic changes to see real results. Save ten thousand dollars. Pay off all your debt overnight. Completely overhaul your spending starting today.

Those goals are so big they feel impossible. And when things feel impossible, people usually do nothing at all. That’s not how change works.

Real, lasting change doesn’t come from one massive leap. It comes from small, consistent actions that build on each other over time. That’s what this lesson is about, how tiny habits create confidence, confidence creates momentum, and momentum carries you forward.

Let’s start with this truth: motivation is unreliable. Habits are not.

Motivation comes and goes. Some days you feel ready to conquer the world. Other days you can barely get out of bed. If you rely on motivation, you’ll be inconsistent, and inconsistency kills progress.

Habits don’t require motivation. They require repetition.

When you make a habit small enough, almost silly, you remove the friction that usually stops you. That’s why small habits work.

Instead of saying, I’m going to create a full budget and overhaul everything this weekend, try something much smaller.

Open your banking app today.
Move a small amount of money.
Organize one small piece of your finances.

Don’t try to overhaul everything. Human brains don’t work that way.

Instead of saying, I’m going to track every expense for seven days straight, try this: write down every purchase over twenty dollars today. That’s it.

These actions feel small enough that they almost don’t matter, and that’s exactly why they work. They feel easy, so you do them. When you do them, you get a small win. That win makes you feel capable, and feeling capable makes you more likely to take the next step.

That’s the momentum loop.

Now let’s get specific. I’m going to give you five micro habits, each taking thirty seconds or less, that will start rewiring your financial self-image.

Micro Habit One: The Morning Money Glance
Every morning, open your banking app and look at your balance. Don’t judge it. Don’t react. Just look. This removes avoidance and proves you can handle seeing the number.

Micro Habit Two: The One Dollar or Five Dollar Transfer
Transfer one dollar or five dollars from checking to savings each day. It’s small enough that it doesn’t trigger panic. Over time, you start seeing yourself as someone who saves.

Micro Habit Three: Pause Before a Purchase
For non-essential purchases, pause for ten seconds and ask yourself: Do I actually want this, or am I just feeling something?
This interrupts impulse spending and creates space between emotion and action.

Micro Habit Four: The Daily Win Log
At the end of each day, write down one small financial win. Even something like I didn’t panic when I checked my account. This trains your brain to notice progress.

Micro Habit Five: The Weekly Five-Minute Review
Once a week, set a five-minute timer and look at your transactions. That’s it. This normalizes looking at your money and reduces fear over time.

Now here’s the key. Pick one. Just one. Try it for seven days. Don’t do all five. Overload kills momentum.

Let’s talk about how these actions create an identity shift.

This is the identity loop. You take a small action, like checking your balance. Your brain registers it as proof. I did something financially responsible today. That proof slightly shifts your identity. The next action feels easier. Over time, these small actions stack, your identity solidifies, and behaviors become automatic.

This is how you go from I’m terrible with money to I’m building financial confidence. Not overnight. Through repetition.

This matters because people wait to feel confident before taking action. But confidence comes after action, not before it.

Think about learning to drive. You weren’t confident before you started. You practiced. You made mistakes. Over time, habits built confidence. Confidence came from doing, not waiting.

Money works the same way.

Each small win makes the next step easier. Over time, momentum builds. That momentum carries you forward.

You don’t need to overhaul your entire life. You don’t need to have everything figured out. You just need to take one small step, then another.

That’s how you build a financial life that feels sustainable. It’s by design, not default. And it leaves your body feeling calmer, more confident, and clearer.

This has been a full day. We’ve talked about identity, safety, and momentum.

In the final lesson of Day Two, I’ll give you a preview of what comes next and how the full Money Mastery Blueprint builds on everything you’ve learned.

Take a breath. Let this settle in. I’ll see you in just a couple of minutes.

MODULE 5 - What Comes Next (And Why This Matters)

This lesson closes Day Two by honoring the work you’ve done and explaining what comes next. It reinforces the importance of building an internal financial foundation and introduces how the Money Mastery Blueprint turns that foundation into real-world systems and skills.

You’ll gain clarity on how mindset, safety, and identity connect to practical money management, while being reminded

that there’s no pressure to decide anything right now. The lesson sets the stage for Day Three, where everything comes together into a clear, actionable roadmap forward.

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Well, here we are, the last session of Day Two. And I want to take a moment to acknowledge what you’ve done.

We did a lot of heavy lifting today. You didn’t just watch videos. You actively built something. You defined your new financial identity. You mapped out the traits and behaviors of the person you are becoming. You learned how to create safety and momentum around money.

That is real work, and I’m genuinely proud of you for showing up.

Now let’s talk about what comes next.

Over the past two days, you’ve been building your internal foundation. Your beliefs. Your identity. Your nervous system regulation. And as I’ve shared with you, this part is crucial. It’s the part that most financial education completely skips.

That’s why so many people either don’t know what to do with money, or they know what to do but still don’t do it. Their bodies are dysregulated. It feels uncomfortable, overwhelming, or unsafe.

At some point, though, you also need the external systems. The practical tools. The step-by-step strategies. The real-world skills that help you manage money day after day.

That’s what the Money Mastery Blueprint does.

The full course takes everything we’ve built here, the mindset work, the identity work, the nervous system work, the safety work, and applies it to real financial situations.

It teaches you things like a first paycheck playbook, what to actually do when money hits your account, how to split it, prioritize it, understand taxes, and why your paycheck may look smaller than you expected.

We talk about building credit from zero. How credit scores really work. How to build credit safely and repair it if it’s been damaged. We talk about debt without shame, student loans, credit cards, and other debt in a way that doesn’t overwhelm your nervous system or keep you stuck.

We cover emergency funds and how to build a financial cushion, even if you’re starting from zero and money feels tight. Small, manageable steps that actually work.

We talk about budgeting, and I’ll say it again, I don’t love that word. I prefer spending plans, because that’s what it really is. A spending plan maps out how you want to use your money with clarity and intention, without guilt or restriction.

We also talk about income growth. How to ask for a raise and actually get it. How to switch jobs strategically. How to build a side hustle without burning out.

And we cover long-term planning, ownership basics, and investing foundations. Not investing for you, but teaching you enough to build a 30-year financial roadmap that feels doable, not overwhelming.

Every lesson is taught using the same principles you’ve learned here: safety over pressure, small steps over perfection, identity first, systems second.

I’ve shared why I created this course. A big part of it is my grandchildren. I look at them and see that nothing has changed. They didn’t receive this education, just like my daughters didn’t, just like I didn’t, just like my parents didn’t.

It’s the same struggle repeating generation after generation, and it shouldn’t be that way.

I’ve worked with countless clients in their 50s and 60s who all say the same thing, I wish I had learned this earlier. And they’re right. We have a massive gap in our education system. No one teaches us how money actually works, even though we deal with it every single day of our adult lives.

I can tell you this with absolute certainty. What you learn about money in your 20s and 30s shapes the next 50 years of your life.

If you learn it now, and you learn it in a way that doesn’t overwhelm your nervous system or throw you into fight, flight, or freeze, then you won’t spend your 50s playing catch-up. You’ll have options. You’ll have security. You’ll have peace of mind.

That’s what I want for you. Not just financial success, but a calm, confident relationship with money.

So what happens if you join the Money Mastery Blueprint?

There are ten core modules, each focused on a specific area of financial life. From your first paycheck to long-term wealth, everything is taught step by step, with no guessing and no overwhelm.

The program includes nervous-system-safe teaching, real-life examples, practical tools, and bonus resources like worksheets and guides.

When we launch, there will be different ways to join, depending on what feels right for you.

But here’s what I need you to hear. You do not need to decide anything today.

This workshop stands on its own. What you’ve learned over the past two days is real, usable, and valuable. If this is all you take with you, that is enough.

And if you feel an internal pull to go deeper when the time comes, the door will be open.

Tomorrow is Day Three, the final day of the workshop. We’ll tie everything together and help you create a clear, calm, and doable six-month roadmap forward.

For now, rest in what you’ve built today. You did important work. Real work. The kind of work most people never do.

Take a moment to acknowledge that. You’re doing a great job.

I’ll see you tomorrow.